This is all nice and lovely and Jennifer Lawrence is awesome and of course it’s true that food will always be better than skinniness, but can we all admit that it’s a lot easier to have a cavalier attitude towards bucking societal pressure to diet when you’re an apparently naturally skinny little blonde girl who looks like Jennifer Lawrence?
June 1987, Madonna was rushed to the Cedars Sinai hospital for an X-ray after her then-husband—Sean Penn hit her across the head with a baseball bat. At the time, they had been having a heart-to-heart talk about reconciling.
Madonna did not make an official complaint because Penn was about to serve a short jail term for attacking a film extra and violating the probation he’d been given for punching a fan. It was a decision she would come to regret. In the late afternoon of December 28, 1988, Penn scaled the wall surrounding the Malibu house and found Madonna alone in the master bedroom.
According to a report filed by Madonna with the Malibu sheriff’s office, the two began to quarrel. Penn told her he owned her “lock, stock and barrel”. When she told him she was leaving the house, he tried to bind her hands with an electric cord. Screaming and afraid, Madonna fled from the bedroom. Penn chased her into the living room, caught her and bound her to a chair with heavy twine. Then he threatened to shave her hair. Penn was “drinking liquor straight from the bottle” and the abuse went on for nine hours, during which he smacked and forced Madonna to perform a “degrading sex act” on him.
He went out to buy more alcohol, leaving Madonna bound and gagged. Some hours later, he returned and continued his attacks, then finally untied her. Madonna then fled the house and ran to her car. Penn ran after her and was banging on the windows of her Thunderbird while she spoke to police on her mobile phone. Fifteen minutes later, she staggered into the sheriff’s office.
Wow. I had no idea this had ever happened. Makes me look at Sean Penn a lot differently, even if he’s a more stable less ABSOLUTELY TERRIFYING person now…
Friendly reminder that Sean Penn and other abusive white celebrities are not demonized the way that Chris Brown is and when Rihanna said she still loved Chris Brown people were ready to hang her. But Madonna gets all the sympathy in the world.
Let me clear something up for all the white people about to freak out on us: no one is saying that Chris Brown should be let off the hook. No one. All we are saying is that it might be nice if people would get just as mad about all the white celebrities who are also spousal abusers.
If a woman in Virginia has a miscarriage without a doctor present, they must report it within 24 hours to the police or risk going to jail for a full year. At least, that’s what would have happened if a bill introduced by Virginia state Sen. Mark Obenshain (R) had become law. And yet, the […]
This astounds me for so very many reasons. Here are the top five:
1) It’s cruel. For many women, a miscarriage means the loss of a dearly wanted child. They should be allowed time to grieve that. Making them go to the police department and recount it in detail is twisting the knife.
2) It’s largely unenforceable. It’s estimated that up to 50% of pregnancies end in miscarriages, the vast majority of which the would-be mother is never even aware that she was pregnant because it occurred before or a couple days after the first missed period, leading them to believe that it is merely a particularly heavy flow. And part of the investigation is informing them where the fetal remains are, the answer to which is largely “the sewer system.” And while it is tempting to send in used tampons to make our point, ultimately, it’s ridiculous.
3) It’s time consuming. Filing the “crime” generally takes at least an hour or two, which means the woman has to take time from work and the investigator has to take time away from investigating actual crimes. The bill will also require a medical examiner to determine the time and cause of “death” also wasting time that could be better spent on discovering the time and cause of already born people’s death. Which brings me to…
4) It’s expensive. Those cops and medical examiners salaries are government workers, meaning their paychecks come from the taxpayers. It’s very fiscally unconservative
5) It’s unnecessary. Miscarrying is not a crime. And nine times out of ten, the reason for the miscarriage is that the fetus was not viable, which is hardly something that needs to be investigated. Now, if the miscarriage was a result of the woman being attacked, that definitely should be investigated. But that’s because a person was assaulted.
I grew up in a big house with a huge yard, two great parents and three fabulous sisters. My parents made it home for dinner every night by seven. We’d go to the beach in the summer and skiing in the winter. My childhood was just shy of idyllic and I’m sure most conservatives would look at my family and deem us “traditional.” They’d say I was brought up with family values. And they’re right. But they’re also wrong.
Because my family’s values aren’t the same as theirs.
My parents taught me to be compassionate, because I could never know what another person is going through.
They taught me to be grateful for what we have, because it was so much more than most people had.
They taught me to remember the great advantages I was given before I judged those who weren’t born so lucky.
They told me to give what I could, because others needed it, be it more or less than ten percent.
They nurtured my mind. They encouraged me to read anything I could get my hands on and then use that knowledge to the best of my ability, not to believe something just because someone said it was true.
They taught me to fight for what is right, to do whatever I could to make the world a better place and encourage progress, not to just accept the status quo.
They taught me to judge someone on their whole self, not just their genitals.
They taught me to treat everyone with kindness, not just those who are like me.
They taught me to respect others by allowing them their privacy and autonomy.
They taught me that respecting myself meant believing that I was worthy of that respect and that respect was not contingent on what I wore or what I did with my body.
They taught me to understand that I had the right to my beliefs, but that didn’t give me the right to demand others believe them, too.
They taught me that being a moral person meant doing all the above. They wouldn’t let me off the hook just because my hymen was intact.
Those are my family’s values. Those are my values. I believe that those are traditional values. The religious right may disagree, but I am done letting them call themselves the party of family values.
“During the civili rights struggle, Birmingham canceled high school prom for many black teenagers. This weekend, the dance went on for the Class of 1963”
The people who were teenagers during the Civil Rights Movement are still alive, y’all. Their lives were affected by blatant, government-sanctioned racism. It astounds me that people act like it was thousands of years ago.
yo i’m tearing up a little bit
This is beautiful. So beautiful.
This is untold levels of awesome
It’s been four and a half years and I don’t even want to count how many views, but if I need a quick cheer up, I just watch Tina Fey and Amy Poehler’s skit of Sarah Palin and Hillary Clinton.